What Are You Holding Onto? The Hidden Ways We Hoard (And How to Let Go)
Most of us don’t think of ourselves as hoarders. After all, we’re not stockpiling newspapers or filling rooms with clutter. But hoarding isn’t just about physical things—it’s a behaviour rooted in fear, one that shows up in ways we often don’t even notice.
We hoard commitments, responsibilities, expectations, and outdated ways of thinking. We hold onto relationships, business strategies, or routines, even when they no longer serve us. We grip onto control, convinced that if we let go, everything might fall apart.
The Hidden Ways We Hoard
The Hoarder energy is sneaky. It operates under the guise of being responsible, practical, and in control. But in reality, it’s driven by fear—fear of change, fear of loss, fear of uncertainty.
It shows up in ways like:
Hoarding obligations – Saying yes to too many things, taking on more than necessary, and struggling to delegate.
Hoarding relationships – Keeping people in our lives out of habit, guilt, or fear of being alone.
Hoarding old beliefs – Holding onto stories about who we are or what we’re capable of, even when they limit us.
Hoarding business strategies – Sticking with approaches that aren’t working, just because they used to.
Hoarding emotions – Pushing down feelings instead of processing and releasing them.
We tell ourselves that holding on is the safest choice. That keeping everything intact will protect us from regret, failure, or loss. But what we don’t realise is that hoarding creates stagnation. It clutters not just our spaces but our energy, our thinking, and our ability to receive anything new.
Luna: The Power of Releasing and Trusting
Luna represents the opposite of the Hoarder. She trusts in cycles, knowing that life moves through phases of growth, release, and renewal. She doesn’t cling to what no longer fits—she lets go, creating space for what’s next.
Luna energy teaches us that releasing isn’t about losing—it’s about making space for something better.
She asks us to reflect on:
What am I holding onto simply because I’m afraid to let go?
Where in my life do I feel stuck, and what would shift if I released control?
What would happen if I trusted that the right opportunities, relationships, and experiences will flow in when I’m ready?
How to Shift from Hoarder to Luna
If you recognise Hoarder patterns in yourself, small shifts can create big changes:
Pause and reflect. Notice where you feel resistance or heaviness—this is often a sign of something you’re holding onto too tightly.
Challenge the fear of letting go. Ask yourself, What am I afraid will happen if I release this?
Create space—mentally, emotionally, and physically. Clear a small part of your schedule, release an expectation, or simply allow yourself to rest.
Practice trust. Letting go is an act of faith. When you stop gripping so tightly, you create room for something new to emerge.
Use Luna’s journaling prompt: As I go to sleep, what is it that I release? Let this be a nightly ritual of surrendering what no longer serves you.
Releasing to Receive
Letting go isn’t always easy, but it is necessary. Whether it’s an old pattern, a limiting belief, or something more tangible, releasing creates space for something new.
In Woman Thriving Circles, we explore where we’re unknowingly hoarding and how to shift into Luna’s trust.
Inside the Free Community, we share reflections and discussions on releasing and receiving.
Take a moment to reflect: What’s one thing—big or small—you’re ready to release? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments.
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